We've all heard the phrase that we must L❤️VE ourselves before we can truly love another. But have you ever wondered what the heck does loving yourself truly mean and what does that look like?  

A friend sent me something on the eve of my most recent birthday. It answered that question and painted a picture of the life I wish for and hope to be living. 

Charlie Chaplin wrote this poem on his 70th birthday. When I first read these words, I felt my heart leap open and my spirit soar. It inspired me tremendously and I just had to share this profound declaration with you. I know it will ring true for many of you who also feel you have grown with age.  

When I started loving myself 
I understood that at any circumstance, 
I am in the right place at the right time, and everything 
happens at exactly the right moment. 
So I could be calm.
Today I call it "TRUST."

As I began to love myself 
I found that anguish and emotional suffering are only 
warning signs that I was living against my own truth. 
Today, I know this is "AUTHENTICITY."

As I began to love myself I understood 
how much it can offend somebody 
as I try to force my desires on this person, 
even though I knew the time was not right and the person 
was not ready for it,
and even though this person was me.
Today I call it "LETTING GO."

As I began to love myself 
I stopped craving for a different life, 
and I could see that everything that surrounded me 
was inviting me to grow.
Today I call it "MATURITY."

As I began to love myself 
I quit steeling my own time, 
and I stopped designing huge projects for the future. 
Today, I only do what brings me joy and happiness, 
Things I love to do and that make my heart cheer, 
and I do them in my own way and in my own rhythm. 
Today I call it "SIMPLICITY."

As I began to love myself 
I freed myself of anything 
that is not good for my health- 
food, people, things, situations, 
and everything that drew me down and away from myself.
At first I called this attitude a "healthy egotism", 
Today I know it is "LOVE OF ONESELF."

As I began to love myself 
I quit trying to always be right, 
and ever since I've been wrong less of the time. 
Today I've discovered this is "MODESTY"

As I began to love myself
I refused to go on living in the past 
and worry about my future.
Now, I only live for the moment where EVERYTHING is happening.
Today I live each day, day by day, and I call it "FULFILLMENT."

As I began to love myself 
I recognized, that my mind can disturb me and it 
can make me sick.
But as I connected it to my heart, 
my mind became a valuable ally.
Today I call this connection "WISDOM OF THE HEART."

We no longer need to fear arguments,
Confrontations or any kind of problems with ourselves and others.
Even stars collide and out of their crashing new worlds are born. 
Today I know: THAT IS "LIFE!"
(Charlie Chaplin, April 16, 1959)

Wishing you the courage to trust life, be good to yourself, live with compassion & 
LOVE YOURSELF! 

❤️Patti 
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Someone recently pointed out to me how overwhelming and confusing it can be sorting through all the conflicting information pertaining to bettering ourselves and living a healthy lifestyle. 
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Isn't THAT the truth.....There is a ridiculous amount of information out there!! 

And it's so darn easy to go overboard and get lost researching, investigating and comparing information. 

INFORMATION OVERLOAD and the next stop is usually overwhelm, indecisiveness or my often two favorites = perfectionism and procrastination. 

What I know for sure is that information alone does NOT lead to transformation! 

But wait a minute! Everywhere we turn, who and what should we listen to and trust? How do we sort through, navigate and find our way? 

Let me introduce you to the three phases/approaches to MINDSET pertaining to information. Wherever you recognize yourself, know you always have a choice to jump ship. 

When we have a CHILD mindset, we do what we're told and follow the rules. 

• We look to others and outside ourselves. 
• There's often a lot of SHOULD's with this. 
• You should do this and don't do that. 
• You oughta do this and never do that.
• It's often rigid, not sustainable and leads to the flip side of the coin. 

With the TEENAGE mindset, we rebel. 

• We reject the rules and all the should's. We throw up our hands and say "enough already, screw this!" 
• We do the exact opposite in rebellion. It's the flip side of the child mindset coin. 

With an ADULT MATURE mindset, we're led by our inner wisdom. 

• Instead of playing by or rejecting the rules of others, we ask questions, look deeper to discover and make our own rules. We're led by our WISE self. 
• That's the place where positive change comes from. 

Looking back, it's been tons of experimentation and trial by error to discover what works best for me. I've read hundreds of books and taken a crazy amount of classes and workshops over the last few decades in pursuit of living a healthy happy life. Led by curiosity and partially because I was a rebel looking for a different way of living, I've experimented with just about everything out there and tried more things than you can imagine in the HEALTH & WELLNESS arena. 

I've jumped around all these mindsets but the positive changes that have stuck were discovered when listening to my wise self. (Often one whisper at a time)

I know without a doubt...
It's much harder to navigate in present times and not drown in a sea of information.
Information doesn't lead to taking action. 
We need inspiration. 
We need motivation. 
We need to take it slow. 
We need support and accountability. 
We need to ask and know WHY we want what we want! 
We need to enJOY the journey! 

Take a break from looking outside for all the answers. Go INSIDE and listen to your WISE self! 

Today marks 29 years since I gave birth to THERAPEUTIC TOUCH and founded my business in Bay Head. WOW the world sure has changed in many ways since 1989! 
In taking time to pause and reflect, I came up with THE TOP 5 WAYS THE MASSAGE INDUSTRY HAS CHANGED IN 29 Years....

1. CALLING vs. CAREER 
Back in the day when Massage wasn't quite accepted and popular, it was a big deal to meet another body worker or massage therapist. There weren't many of us and we formed our own little tribe of passionate pioneers who had a calling to share the healing power of TOUCH. 

We traveled the country and around the world seeking out masters and gurus to teach us, obsessed with learning everything it takes to become a GREAT therapist. Back then, it was a calling that turned into a career and livelihood. Over time, we grew into becoming healers. 

More often today, people are entering the field seeing it as a career and sometimes just a job. When approaching the work as a technician, there is a lack of the qualities that come from a deeper calling to learn more and serve better. We can FEEL it...it's immensely different to be touched/massaged by someone just going through the motions-doing a routine and someone who truly has their heart and soul in it. 

2. Customized vs. Commercialization
It's wonderful that massage has gone mainstream and lots more people have discovered the healing powers of touch. It's downright amazing how Massage franchises have popped up everywhere in the last decade or so BUT at what cost...
It used to be that massage businesses were privately owned, solo individuals and boutique establishments with hands-on owners who knew and understood what it takes to create a truly healing experience. That's changing...

With the globalization of franchises, it's become big business and with that de-personalized. Sadly, it's losing some of its heartfelt touch and much of the essence of healing. Massaging people cannot be seen or approached as an assembly line process. It doesn't work that way. It's like comparing fast food and fine dining. 
I'll always treat my business as if we're a fine dining experience by paying attention to the very small details and offering a quality and personalized experience! 

3. 30/60/90 vs. 25/50/80 
It used to be that a one hour massage was 60 minutes. A 1/2 hour massage was 30 minutes and an hour and half was 90 minutes. It makes no sense to me that now more than ever with stress levels being off the charts higher to shorten the time on the table. One thing I will never stand for is lessening the time on the table for the sole business purpose of squeezing more treatments into a day to increase profits. I don't believe in therapists having to rush through a full body massage in 50 minutes with only 10 minutes between clients. Call me old-fashioned but I like a full hour on the table and don't want to feel rushed whether I'm on the giving or receiving end. Why can't we SLOW DOWN and not rush our massage time PLEASE! 

4. It's Harder to Find Good Massage Therapists 
There's lots more massage therapists out there today but it's not easy finding really great therapists. We've been lucky over the years and have an extraordinary team of caring and talented heart-centered therapists. It's not easy finding the "right" person who shines with positivity and fits in with our holistically minded culture. Lucky for us, many of our therapists have stayed on for up to 20 years and longer. 
Hard to believe with summer right around the corner and only a couple weeks before our busy season, I'm still looking for one more massage therapist. If anyone you know comes to mind, don't be afraid to send them my way. I promise they'll be in really good hands! 💜(wink wink) 

5. LUXURY vs. NECESSITY 
More and more people are recognizing the benefits of regular massage therapy. Even though massage has been used throughout the ages for health and healing, only recently has evidence based research help to open the doors taking Massage Therapy mainstream. It's finally time to dispense with any notion of massage as only a luxury, feel good splurge with no real health benefits. On the contrary, massage is true hands-on-healing. Scientific studies indicate that massage lowers blood pressure, boosts the immune system, lowers our cortisol/stress hormones and raises our levels of health boosting hormones: serotonin and dopamine. So yes, while massage feels like a luxury, it is also darned good medicine! 😊

Shout out to ALL the massage therapists and allied health professionals around the globe working hard to create TRUE HEALTH CARE and are committed to the EXPERIENCE vs. the PROFIT.

I'm grateful for all the teachers, mentors, healers and gurus that are helping to change the world. Thank you for answering the CALL. We sure have come a long way but we still have a long way to go! 
❤️💜💙💚💛

Heartfelt gratitude and thank you!

TOUCH is a powerful tool for healing. With intention, touch becomes a vehicle to create higher states of well being and a catalyst for personal growth and transformation. 

I founded Therapeutic Touch on these principles in June of 1989. With a pledge and commitment to share this extraordinary discovery with the world, the journey as a passionate holistic entrepreneur began. 

The path wasn't always clear but sometimes we just know when things are right. 

I knew it was time to get out of my head and into my heart. Help others. Make a difference. Live inspired. 

29 years later is a good time for contemplation...🎂

Birthdays and anniversaries are a wonderful time to reevaluate and celebrate. And we get a free pass to be sappy and sentimental too. 

How have I grown? What have I learned? 
Here are some of the important lessons and takeaways....(in no particular order) 

1. Have the courage to be real...Live authentically! 

2. There's a greater force at work in our lives. Pay attention....
Watch for the signs. Listen for the whispers. 

3. Doors will open. Doors will close. Allow life to unfold & Trust the Universe. 

4. Listen to your gut. Trust your intuition. It rarely leads you wrong. 

5. Be honest. ALWAYS speak the TRUTH. 

6. Don't quit! Never give up but know when to course correct. 

7. There will be trials and challenges. (Recessions and natural disasters) 
Hang on. Ride the waves. Don't jump out. STAY in the canoe and KEEP paddling. 

8. Let go of what you can't control. It drains way too much energy otherwise. 

9. Strength lies in BALANCE. At times, be GENTLE & other times, be STRONG. 

10. Know your purpose. Remember your mission. Lead with your values. 

11. It's the little things that matter. Take care of them and the big stuff falls into place. 

12. Presence and intention are paramount. 

13. The lightest TOUCH can HEAL. 

14. Pain and trauma (physical and emotional) are stored in the body. Create a safe space and letting go will happen. 

15. Laughter is healing. So are tears. 

16. Judge no one. Live open-minded and open-hearted. We don't always know what others are going through. 

17. Treat others how you wish to be treated. Be kind. Be cheerful. Be reverent. Every human being is sacred. 

18. Talk less. Listen more. Value confidentiality. 

19. Invest in learning. Share what you know to help others. 

20. When you are ready...the perfect teacher will appear. 

21. We can't give from an empty cup. First and foremost, TAKE GOOD CARE of YOURSELF! 

22. Stay hydrated. Often when we think we're hungry or tired, we're just thirsty. Drink plenty of water. 

23. NURTURE YOURSELF! Rest. Sleep. Move your body. Stretch. Nourish your senses. And above all else, wear comfortable shoes AND don't forget to BREATHE. 

24. Live a life of SERVICE. Ask, how can I HELP? Focus on GIVING, not getting! 

25. Don't panic- tests are for personal growth. 

26. It takes a great TEAM of heart-centered therapists and like-minded, caring individuals to create HEAVEN on EARTH! 🤗

27. Have courage and don't be afraid to DREAM BIG! 

28. What we appreciate, appreciates! Practice GRATITUDE...Everyday Be GRATEFUL 

29. LOVE Is the GLUE that holds us together! 
Love love love!! ❤️❤️❤️

By the way, did you know that it takes the planet Saturn 29.4 years to orbit the Sun once? Its hard to believe that Saturn has circled the sun only once while I've been busy living this fulfilling and adventurous life. 💫

I THANK my lucky stars, the DIVINE powers ruling this Universe and each and every person that I've met along this journey thus far. 

"Saturn doesn't ask you to give up your dreams, only to make them real" (thank you Steven Forest for this GREAT quote) 

Feeling grateful and lucky...blessed to be living my dream life. 

Thank you for your support and being part of the Therapeutic Touch Adventure! 
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When it comes to happiness and our outlook on life, it is the WAY we are SEEING the world, and NOT THE WORLD that determines our viewpoint. Every day, it's an inside job. It's our perception that creates our reality.  I can't tell you how many times I remind myself of this truth... 

"It's our ATTITUDE that determines our ALTITUDE!"

It's so important that I'm sharing with you PAGE ONE of our Therapeutic Touch Staff Manual....

ATTITUDE by Charles Swindell  "The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than failures, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company...a church...a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice everyday regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past...we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one thing we have, and that is our attitude...I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it. And so it is with you...we are in charge of our ATTITUDES." 

We have lots of reminders pertaining to this message on our walls at Therapeutic Touch. Reminding all of us, over and over, that when we change the way we look at things, the things we look at change. (Thank you Wayne Dyer for teaching us this!) 

At Therapeutic Touch, we're here everyday to help elevate, inspire, and remind you of what you already know...

Happiness truly is an inside job! 
Just a friendly reminder because most of us get so darn busy that we forget.  And that goes for ME TOO! 
Hope to see you soon at Therapeutic Touch for an "attitude adjustment" which is always intended and included in every visit! 

​Every now and then, we hear something that sparks our attention and gets us really thinking.

Recently I was in an audience hearing Elizabeth Gilbert- best selling author of Eat, Pray, Love.  

She said something that stuck. 

Of course, we all know there's a limited number of hours in each day. 
We think and say we have our priorities strait but too often we're pretending. We make excuses why our lives don't look or feel like we say we want them to.
We blame it on all the distractions and endless things competing for our attention. 

We wake up in the morning and fill up our days with God knows what. All the while, leaving what we say is REALLY important for another day. 
We think and say there's not enough time. Something came up. We're too busy. (Blah, blah, blah...) 

We think saying NO to all the things we don't want to do is the answer. But here's the thing....sometimes we have to say NO to some of the things we want to do too. Liz asked us...how much time do you spend on Facebook, surfing the internet, scrolling social media, watching TV? 

Wow that got my attention!

If I'm completely honest, I know there's mornings that I don't get to the gym, meditate or get things done that I plan to because I get distracted. Often by plugging into technology.  Have you ever gotten sidetracked like this? Getting caught up in the mundane and lost track of time? 

My BIG takeaway has been coming back to owning my priorities AND not making excuses! 

If I know my priorities are my health and wellbeing, my family and friends- then that's where I'm putting my time and planting my attention. 

No more pretending. No more excuses. 

Daily meditation, movement/exercise, nourishing meals, and staying connected with my loved ones are non-negotiable. 

So my friend...what are your priorities? 

• How do you get distracted and what excuses have you been making? 
• What can you do today to move towards what you say is really important and nourishes you from the inside out? 

​I leave you with a quote from John Maxwell....
 "You will never change your life, until you CHANGE something you do daily. The secret of your SUCCESS is found in your DAILY ROUTINE." 

Start today. 

BLOOM or Be Pruned! 🌺
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For as long as I can remember, I've always been a helper. Someone who felt deeply called to serve others. I was lucky to recognize my gifts, forge my unique path and feel blessed with my team everyday helping to make the world a better place. 
And some days, I wonder if I am doing enough. When I look around and see the world in so much chaos, crisis and pain.  
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Perhaps you may wonder the same...What can you do to help? Are you doing enough? 

I'm reminded of a story by Alan Cohen from one of my all time favorite books, The Dragon Doesn't Live Here Anymore. 

A young father was beginning to feel a little annoyed with his five year old son, who was asking him endless questions while he was trying to read the evening newspaper. Seizing on a scheme to buy him some quiet time, dad found a picture of the Earth in the newspaper, cut it out, tore it into little pieces, and gave it to the child to reassemble as a jigsaw puzzle. 

To the father's astonishment, the child was back minutes later with the picture perfectly intact. "Look, Daddy, the world is back together!" the child exclaimed. The father was amazed at how quickly the boy had finished. "How did you do it so fast?"  he asked. "It was easy! First, I couldn't fit the picture of the Earth together. Then I looked on the other side of the pieces, and there were pictures of the parts of a man. It was much easier to put the man together, so that's what I did. And when the man came together, so did the Earth." 

And so it is. Throughout the ages, the wise sages have all taught this truth. "If you want to bring about peace in the world, first bring peace within yourself" .... "Don't worry about reforming others, reform yourself!" ... "The peace that you would have others find must first be found in your own heart."

While it may seem selfish to focus on ourselves, the truth is that we can each make more of a contribution when we start living more consciously from a place of peace, kindness and compassion. First for ourselves and then all that goodness spreads outward naturally. 

We may feel that we have little power to change the destiny of our world, but it is through each of us individually that the world is changed. 

Gandhi said it best: "Be the change that you wish to see in the world!"  Together we can do this...

All it takes is one little burning match to start a forest fire.  Let's LIGHT this world on fire with LOVING❤️KINDNESS!