What a year it’s been…crazy right!
I chuckled recently seeing a T-shirt with the message
“I MISS PRECEDENTED TIMES!”
Ain’t that the truth! I’m just glad we made it through this summer at TT with a moderate level of normalcy.
With so many changes & lots of uncertainty, everyday life sure seems difficult to predict & navigate. It’s more important than ever to surround yourself with friends & loved ones - thank GOD, we’re all in this together!
It’s time to uplevel our SELF CARE - which means so much more than bubble baths & massages. (Although I’m first in line for regular massage)
As a Wellness Warrior & Leader in the Wellness Revolution - I’ve learned a lot over several decades…True self care is about knowing yourself & tending to your own personal needs moment to moment. That means day after day - putting on my own oxygen mask first before tending to others.
YES. YES. YES.
This may ruffle some folks feathers and there’s often push-back as it goes against lots of what we were taught growing up. But I know without a shadow of doubt…it’s all about becoming the person you want and are meant to be.
And today, I can say I LOVE THE PERSON I’VE BECOME BECAUSE I’VE FOUGHT TO BECOME HER!
P.S. I’m excited to share an insightful blog that I hope will inspire you ❌⭕
It is often doing the ugliest thing that you have to do, like sweat through another workout or tell a toxic friend you don’t want to see them anymore or get a second job so you can have a savings account or figure out a way to accept yourself so that you’re not constantly exhausted from trying to be everything, all the time and then needing to take deliberate, mandated breaks from living to do basic things like drop some oil into a bath and read Marie Claire and turn your phone off for the day.
A world in which self-care has to be such a trendy topic is a world that is sick. Self-care should not be something we resort to because we are so absolutely exhausted that we need some reprieve from our own relentless internal pressure.
True self-care is not salt baths and chocolate cake, it is making the choice to build a life you don’t need to regularly escape from.
And that often takes doing the thing you least want to do.
It often means looking your failures and disappointments square in the eye and re-strategizing. It is not satiating your immediate desires. It is letting go. It is choosing new. It is disappointing some people. It is making sacrifices for others. It is living a way that other people won’t, so maybe you can live in a way that other people can’t.
It is letting yourself be normal. Regular. Unexceptional. It is sometimes having a dirty kitchen and deciding your ultimate goal in life isn’t going to be having abs and keeping up with your fake friends. It is deciding how much of your anxiety comes from not actualizing your latent potential, and how much comes from the way you were being trained to think before you even knew what was happening.
If you find yourself having to regularly indulge in consumer self-care, it’s because you are disconnected from actual self-care, which has very little to do with “treating yourself” and a whole lot do with parenting yourself and making choices for your long-term wellness.
It is no longer using your hectic and unreasonable life as justification for self-sabotage in the form of liquor and procrastination. It is learning how to stop trying to “fix yourself” and start trying to take care of yourself… and maybe finding that taking care lovingly attends to a lot of the problems you were trying to fix in the first place.
It means being the hero of your life, not the victim. It means rewiring what you have until your everyday life isn’t something you need therapy to recover from. It is no longer choosing a life that looks good over a life that feels good. It is giving the hell up on some goals so you can care about others. It is being honest even if that means you aren’t universally liked. It is meeting your own needs so you aren’t anxious and dependent on other people.
It is becoming the person you know you want and are meant to be. Someone who knows that salt baths and chocolate cake are ways to enjoy life – not escape from it.”
[Illustration: Yaoyao Ma Van As Art ]